Sunday, July 16, 2017

Happy Birthday To My Precious Girl!!!

Today is July 16 
My precious baby girl is 7 today and it seems completely unreal to me!! 
Where has the time gone?! 

On one hand I am happy that she is getting bigger and we can do more "grown up" things like go to the movies without tantrums or disruptions (on a good day) or play salon and paint our toes and fingers. It is very fun watching her grow and learn more and more each day. BUT on the other hand it is so sad to know my baby girl isn't a baby anymore. I miss the smell of her baby hair and the softness of her wrinkled skin. I miss the oos and ahhs of her baby talk. 
Although I miss those sweet precious milestones I know there are many more to come. 

For her birthday we went to Deam Lake, I know that I have talked about this lake before but it is in Indiana and just so peaceful and gorgeous! We had a small cookout with my sister and her kiddos, then spent the next couple hours in the water just feeling the sun on our skin! It was perfect!!

The scenery is just so relaxing with such a clear view of the blue sky and a pretty view of the trees across the water.

This is my favorite picture! Just the perfect picture to describe how perfect the weather was yesterday, just a simple sail boat catching some waves!!

The birthday girl just playing in the water, all day she was on the hunt for special rocks and sea shells. She had quite the collection before we left.

It is amazing to me the simple fun the kiddos had searching for rocks and sea shells, they were occupied for hours and hours just being kids! 

Why can't she just stay this young forever?!?

Tuesday, June 6, 2017

Happy June Ya'll

Wow! Where has the time gone? 

Just yesterday I felt like we were packing up to make the big move to Louisville and now we are entering June!! Summer is here ladies and gentleman! At times I feel so guilty for working when Alyssa is on summer break, I just want to hang out with her everyday and go to the park or the pool, have dinner or catch a movie. But like many of you know the life of a working parent is anything but easy. 

Tons of parents work through the summer and sometimes miss out on school events or family get togethers. It is so hard being a working parent. I have made it my summer time goal to spend some good quality time with Alyssa during this summer and really bond with my big girl. 

We recently got a membership to the YMCA here in Louisville so I'm hoping that will be a nice place for Alyssa and I to hang out by the pool or do some family activities or classes together. I have never had a membership at the YMCA before so I still need to research what all we can do there together but I am feeling very hopeful that we can hang out together there many times this summer. 

I need help with this everybody......

What fun summer time activities do you like to do with your kiddos to bond and really spend that quality time together?

Sunday, May 21, 2017

Hello Transition, We Meet Again

This year has been full of transition for my family!

Cole and I got engaged in February 2016, then we got married just 7 months later in September 2016. It was so fun and exciting planning our wedding but then you see how much everything costs and then you get so overwhelmed, like how are we going to do this! Luckily my parents helped out a bit so it wasn't as overwhelming as it could've been but man was it hard.

Now that we are married I really don't feel much different. I don't know how I am suppose to feel after the wedding but we lived together before and were paying bills together before so after the wedding there really wasn't much difference.

Now we have made the giant move to Louisville and man oh man what a difference! I started a new job and he is hoping to start a new job soon, Alyssa will be 7 this July and will be entering the 2nd grade in a whole new school!! 

Transitions are something that people go through everyday, every week and even every year, but I don't think you are really 100% prepared. We had a plan and it seemed like what could go wrong did go wrong but now almost 2 months after the big move things are finally getting back to normal.

It has been such a hectic, adventurous and crazy year, but when I get home every night and look at my crazy and wild family I just feel so blessed each and everyday! 

It can only get better from here right??

Photos Provided By: Michael C. Wells Photography

Tuesday, February 21, 2017

When The Going Gets Tough!

Can I please be bold about our healthcare? I am not a genius when it comes to the healthcare system or to the politics of this world but when it comes to my child and my family I know what my heart tells me! I have been struggling with my daughter's appetite since she was one year old and the struggle is REAL!! I have tried everything, I have seen so many pediatricians and I have gotten many "second" opinions but it seems like all the doctors I see just tell me the exact same thing:

Your daughter is just a picky eater!
Your daughter just has a very tiny stomach, she can't handle a lot of food
This is just phase she will grow out of it
She will eat when she is hungry
Ahh she is just a kid
All kids are picky
Well she is still growing

Blah! Blah! Blah! I am sorry but if I have been going to doctors and expressing concerns about my child's appetite and her weight for 5 years don't you think somebody should listen!!!

I started to think I was seriously crazy! Am I just a helicopter mom that is overreacting because my daughter is "too thin" or is my voice just not being heard?

I went to this amazing conference in Louisville, Kentucky, they had a bunch of different classes for foster and adoptive parents, just sharing a lot of advice and knowledge about a bunch of different types of topics. The one I was most interested in was called "Is It Just Picky Eating, or is There Something More." I was very excited to finally get some answers about my child and what I can do to really help her with the struggles that she has. I asked a ton of questions and actually felt a tad bad because I didn't want to take up too much time but I need some answers!

It was a wonderful conference, I absolutely loved it! We talked about different sensory issues that children face but may not be able to express or verbalize. To share a little more info my daughter is an extremely picky eater, she has had her toe nails fall off. Some of her hair has just fell out of her head for no reason. The major one that we struggle with is recurrent pneumonia. My daughter holds food in her mouth for long periods of time refusing to actually swallow. It may not seem like a lot to some people but it's more frustrating than anything. After this class, I was really excited about moving forward and getting the help she needs. 

I brought some of the symptoms and possibilities up at my pediatricians office when we took a turn for the worse and my beautiful 6 year old baby girl passed out one evening. Unfortunately my pediatrician was not on the same page and completely dismissed my concerns. After many moments of me vocalizing my concern and expressing emotions and evidence that something is just not right I finally got a referral to see a nutritionist at one of the top children's hospitals in the US.  I was so relieved that finally my voice was heard and we can move forward with an action plan.

Well ladies and gents listen to this!!! Today was the day. I was excited, I was off work and we were on our way to see a nutritionist about my daughter! After all of the excitement and hope that we had can I just say, this appointment was nothing like I had expected! I shared my concerns about Alyssa's picky eating and shared symptoms that she had that seemed to point to some kind of sensory disorder and the nutritionist dismissed all of my concerns and pretty much said their was nothing they could do for my precious girl. My heart was breaking, tears were shed and anger was building up inside me! Why must it be so hard in this country to provide people with the healthcare that they need, the healthcare that they deserve and the healthcare that we pay for!! 
This is a 5 year battle of what some people would call a eating disorder, what some may call a sensory disorder and what most would call "just another picky eater" and people I am just not buying it anymore!! 
I know in my heart that some of those answers are just not true!! There is a reason why our children are picky!!
I will exhaust every optionevery doctors office and every single ounce of my being will go to getting my baby the healthcare and treatment that she needs even if that means uprooting my family to get it! Now who's with me!!

Moms and dads that may be dealing with the same or similar issues, (or friends that may know somebody that is struggling) please know that you are not alone and trust me when I say I am just as frustrated and exhausted as you are!! Please leave me a comment and please feel free to share this post!
Let us work together to find the answers that our doctors and pediatricians are just not giving us!!! 

Tuesday, January 24, 2017

I'M BACK!!!!

I am so sorry for the massive delay in my blog posts I feel like every time I get back on track something happens and knocks me out of my routine! Well ladies and gents I am back, and so much has happened!!!!

Major news here...... I got married!! I know I have wrote about Cole before but it has been just a couple times. So quick update, Alyssa and I got our own apartment and life was going good then Cole moved in, we got a dog and then after about a year we got engaged. After about 7 months we got married!! Here are some pictures for you!

We had a cute small outdoor wedding and it was the most stressful and happiest day of my life!! 

Where are all my married couples at?!? Give me advice on staying married and happy for years and years to come!!! 

Thursday, September 17, 2015

Trying To Find Myself

So here I am sitting at the table eating my green salad and typing away. I really love writing, it's just that sometimes I dont know what to write about, I guess you can call that writers block. I guess! I love the feeling of my fingers on the keys and the pitter patter the keys make as I am typing! Sometimes I feel like I have great ideas but then as I'm typing, I find myself second guessing myself and end up deleting everything. I guess I'm a perfectionist! I am also a control freak! Yes I have finally come to terms with my compulsive controlling nature, which makes writing even better because I'm in control!

I have been watching this tv show about a bunch of girls living in California and I feel like I am somewhat living through their eyes. They have such freedom and carelessness about them. I feel like not everybody has that! I felt it myself when I was in California. I think that's what was so amazing about it, everybody is just so free and so confident. I blamed it on the sunlight, like everybody was on this all nature high from the perfect weather!!

 Just thinking about being in California makes me smile! I could probably write all night about my experince in California!! Well hey look at that, maybe thats just what I will do!!! I feel like a lightbulb just went off in my head! I am going to write about California!!! Yay to new projects!!!

Until next time guys!!!

Leave me a comment and tell me what is your California? Where do you feel most free and more you?

Tuesday, August 18, 2015

Consolidate Your Bills

Hey guys! I have been going through all my post and realized since I have had a boyfriend I have been giving out a lot of advice! I am in no way an expert in dating, those of you who have read my book know that! 
I am simply just talking about how I feel and my opinion on things that are happening in my life! Take it or leave it guys!! Some advice may be good, some advice may be bad! Some things work in my life but may not work in yours! 

So, moving on......looking at the bills that Cole and I have seperately plus the bills we have together we are paying way too much!! So consolidating seems to be the perfect idea right? If we are going to be together in a relationship and live together as a family we need to cut corners wherever we can, starting with bills. Getting your finnaces in order causing so much less stress in your life and that way you can both be accountable and active in your financial situation. So just a couple of examples that I have......

Cell Phones: Cole has T-Mobile but I have Verizon

I am on a plan with my mom but Cole is by himself. Cole has been paying $110 a month for his cell phone. He has a smart phone and I think unlimited everything! 
My mom and I both have smart phones but my mom also has a tablet that is on our plan. We have unlimited talk and text with 10GB of data per month we pay $175 a month. 
So together we are paying $275 just to have our cell phones!
Looking at our plans and how much data, minutes and text we use, we decided for him to be added on to our plan. So to add his line on our plan it was only $60 extra a month. That is way better than paying $110. So now we are all on the same plan! 
Saving $50 a month!!

Another example is with our car insurance. Now, since we are not married we are not allowd to combine auto insurance policies. Cole and I work opposite shifts, so looking at our schedules we decided to be a one car family. 
Saving us money on our insurance $75 a month!
Plus, his car is way better on gas than mine was, I am not sure if we will be saving gas money but it is definitely a plus.

Now this stuff is nice to do when you have been together with your boy/girlfriend for a while that way you both are committed. If I didnt love Cole and think that we would be together forever I wouldnt be doing this stuff because you never want to find yourself being reliable or dependant on your significant other. So just do what is realistic for your family!!

What kind of ways do you all save on your monthly expenses? What advice do you have for other women on a way to cut corners with their bills?